Do You Have the Social Support You Need to Succeed in Health and Fitness?

Posted August 10, 2015 by

Name the biggest obstacle to the successful achievement of your health and fitness goals.

No, it’s not your genetics. Nope, not your level of knowledge.

It’s not your athletic ability, age, previous injuries, or any of the other factors you’re probably imagining.

Ironically, it’s usually something that initially masks itself as a resource for your success–your social support system.

Because most people aren’t aware of the potential negative effects of a suboptimal social support network, they aren’t looking for the clues that would otherwise help them avoid the downward spiral that causes them to repeatedly fail at the commitments they set for themselves.

Does it sound familiar?

Do you typically start a diet or workout program excited for the vision in your mind of what you’re going to accomplish, only to end up deciding a couple of days/weeks later that you’re over it?

“I can’t have a social life and work on my health at the same time–I am going to lose all my friends if I don’t stop this–this isn’t for me.”

“My family says that I am taking this too far and they’re worried about me–I should stop–this isn’t for me.”

“I’m being selfish by going to the gym and spending more money on healthier food options–what about my kids and significant other? This isn’t for me.”

“It’s too hard being rude to my coworkers who are trying to be nice and offer me food, drinks, etc. that I have to turn down–I don’t want to disappoint them–this isn’t for me.”

Do any of those excuses sound familiar?

Most of this negative self-talk is actually a byproduct of a bad (see: nonexistent) social support system, and if you don’t address it, your chances of success will be incredibly diminished.

Watch this video where I speak with Lazarus Ross, a fellow coach and friend of mine about this very subject, and what you need to do to overcome this issue.

Here’s three things you can do right now to ensure that you’re in a proper environment for success with regards to your own goals:

  1. Perform a “social support audit” of your friends, coworkers and–perhaps most importantly–family. Identify problematic people in your life who don’t truly support your dreams.
  2. Sit down with each person on your above list and have a heart-to-heart with them about your goals and why it’s important to you that they both respect your goals and support you in your journey to achieve them.
  3. Don’t hesitate to eliminate or put people at a distance who still can’t respect your journey even after this conversation–trust me, there will be several “crabs in a bucket” who can’t handle the idea of you achieving a significant goal for yourself.

Having a coaching team behind you and being a part of a community of like-minded people with similar goals to yours will serve to greatly amplify the positive energy that will balance out the negative energy you might experience in these other areas of your life as well.

If you’re not already part of a coaching program and a member of a fitness community, strongly consider finding one that you feel can help you stay accountable, motivated and on track towards accomplishing your goals.

It can literally be the difference between success and failure, and failure is not an option, right?

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